That Guy Ajay

If God appears and gives a boon, I bet 95% of people would ask for happiness; Assuming that the remaining 5% are already happy.                                   Everything we do in our lives is for happiness. Isn't it? Some people find happiness in earning money, some in helping others, some in fame, some in taking care of family, some in hurting others and some in serving their country. The paths we choose may be different, but ultimately we want to be happy. But, how many of us are really happy with our lives? After I finished college, I was so excited that I could go to work and earn money. (At that point of time I was sure money would make me happy.) I got a job and was really excited to take my first salary. I bought everything I always wanted to buy, branded clothes, a smart phone and went on a date with my own money. Oh my god! I was so happy. Very soon I was no longer happy with what ...

If there is something we never want to talk about, it's death. We all know that death is inevitable, but why are we so frightened to talk about it? Why is it so hard for us to accept death? Are we actually worried about losing life or something else? Human lives are mostly miserable. No matter who you are and what you do, there is always never ending suffering (Kudos to you if you don't suffer). Inspite of all that we wish to live longer. Most of us don't want to die. Why is it we want to live? If you think about it we are not really worried about dying, but we are worried that we have to give up everything that we acquired and treasured in our lives. The wealth we accumulated, the family we created, the knowledge we gained, the materials we bought, etc. Isn't that right? It sounds so senseless that we can't take anything with us after death, and that thought itself makes our lives look so meaningless. Do you see it? We work so hard in our lives and think we ...

"Live in the present", is probably the most overused phrase on the internet. There are many self-help books and motivational speakers telling us about the importance of living in this moment and all the benefits you get by doing so. I too agree that living in the moment will help you to live a happy and fulfilling life. We all know that to live in the moment is to fully enjoy the present without worrying about tomorrow or mull over the past. But, do we actually know how to apply that principle in life? I was a constant worrier. I always used to feel bad about all the decisions I took in the past and worry about the future. When I first learnt about the concept of living in the moment, I thought I had discovered the greatest technique to live life. But, it wasn't really easy to approach life with that attitude. Also, it was not possible to apply that principle in everyday life. We will definitely create more problems if we live life in the present moment without real...

Writing is the best thing that ever happened to me in my life. Writing has helped me to overcome my deepest fears. There was a time when I had thoughts that have been lingering in my mind for ages. (You know the kind of thoughts that give you anxiety and won't let you sleep). I could never share my thoughts with anyone. Because, I was afraid I will be judged. It's difficult to make people understand mental problems. People sympathize with those with cuts and bruises, and not fears and worries. Anytime I tried to tell anyone that I was going through anxiety, the best advice I would get was to eat and sleep well. Honestly, if it was that simple life would be so easy for many people. We all have our own unique worries and fears which we can't share with anyone. Not because we don't want to, but it's really hard to find someone who could listen without judging you. (If you have anyone like that, consider yourself lucky and ensure that you don't lose them at an...

I must admit, I hated TikTok. I hated it so much that I posted hate-status on Facebook as well. To be honest, I really didn't have any particular reason to hate it. I hated it just because everyone hated it. (You know that feeling when the majority of people have an opinion about something you automatically tend to exhibit the same opinion). One day I was forced to do a TikTok video by my friends. It took me more than an hour to do one sub-par video. It really hurt my self-confidence, because I always thought making TikTok videos were easy, and I couldn't even do one proper video.  For the next few days I tried making more videos only to realize that it requires hard work, skill and imagination to make TikToks as well, much the same as every other business. When I was scrolling through my Facebook profile the post above which I shared a few days ago caught my eye. I wanted to understand why people are biased toward TikTok, and what made me hate it too. I started ...

Just Google the word meditation and you will see thousands of results telling you how to meditate, when to meditate and how long to meditate. You will see how meditation can be used to cope with anxiety, sleeping disorder, stress, loneliness, depression, heart diseases, and to increase relaxation, awareness, self-identity, peace and all the rest of it. Meditation is also claimed to be a path towards enlightenment and self-realization. Different religions practice different kinds of meditations. There is Hindu meditation, Jain meditation, Buddhist meditation, Taoist meditation, Jewish meditation, etc. The so-called enlightened people in turn developed their own ways of meditation too. The word meditation is being used interchangeably with the words mindfulness, awareness, consciousness, alertness, concentration, attention, etc. Hence, it's very difficult for one to define meditation. If you have noticed meditation is the only belief that has been accepted by different religi...

Why do they say life is complicated? Why do they teach us how to live? Why are there hundreds of professionals to take care of our physical and mental wellness?  I live a simple life. I eat when I'm hungry, I drink when I'm thirsty, I sleep when I'm sleepy, I rest when I'm tired, I rush when I'm late, I brush when I wake up, I bath when I smell, I take a leak when my bladder is full, and I walk sometimes, I run sometimes, I help my mom sometimes, I meet my friends sometimes, I spend time with my family sometimes.  I work during my work hours. When they need me, I help others. I buy what I need and save what is left. I blush when I see her, and I flush when I'm near her. I tell her if I love her. I hug her if I miss her. I kiss her if she permits, and we marry if she accepts. We make babies when we are ready, and stop when we have plenty. I cry, I laugh, I hope, I cope, I fear, I cheer, I expect, I respect, I bend, I mend, I live, and let live.  ...