How To Overcome Childhood Traumas?

I often wondered why I have the anxieties I do. Why am I different from others? Why do I worry about things that most people don't even think about? When did things go wrong? Is it possible to overcome these anxieties as though they never existed?

These questions lingered in my mind as I meticulously traced back through my life, year by year for as long as I could remember recalling every negative incident and experience. Not surprisingly, there were countless, helpless and hopeless incidents and I can recollect them vividly. Many of these happened when I was between 4 and 15 years old, and I can see now how they shaped who I am today.

It was a great relief to find out the reasons behind my anxieties. I have found myself blaming various things like family, friends, teachers and environment for making me who I am today. I was convinced that I wasn't born with anxieties, but picked them up along the way. No matter who you are, where you were born and who you were born to, no childhood is perfect. Because, majority of us were not born out of love - we were either accidental or an investment for future or just a conformity to society. A child is helpless but has to go through endless traumatic events like domestic violence, bullying, death in family, poverty, health issues and so on. All these events leave deep marks on our minds causing us to live cautiously and avoid anything that reminds us of those difficult times, leading to anxieties.

You could pick each anxiety and analyse to figure out how how it started. With enough time spent, you may probably be able to find root causes for all your anxieties and pinpoint the people and situations that caused them. But, understanding this doesn't change the way we live. A rock can blame its environment for its shape, because it can't change itself without help from outside. We don't have that luxury, even though we are shaped by our experiences and environment. We are different, we have the ability to mentally change ourselves right now. Yes, right now. 

All we can do is to accept our past and live in the present and take full responsibility for who we are today, without blaming anyone or anything. We can transform and reinvent ourselves every day: that's what makes us human.